Featured Guest Blog: Invest in the Family CEO — YOU!

This may seem ridiculous, but this is your time – it is our time.  Time to shine, show what kind of impact we can have – on OURSELVES.  Not the world, not TMR, not our children, not our husbands – but ourselves.  And before you laugh and say, “Yeah, right” or “When am I going to find THAT time?” take a few minutes to read my story.

What would you say to your daughters or sons if they were working as hard as you: giving everything you have to help your child/children,  staying up all night reading books, reviewing websites or chatting with other parents, researching doctors, protocols, etc. – and spending virtually no time for yourself?

Many of us would say – you need a break, you need to take care of you.  Something many of us know, but don’t listen to.  So treat yourself like you want your child to do for themselves.  Remember, they learn from example – set a good one.

Not good enough incentive?  It wasn’t for me.  I was a terrible example.  Giving everything for my kids and nothing for me.  My poor husband wasn’t even in the picture.

Until.

Until, someone told me an interesting secret.  The better I got, the better my children would get.  Bunk! Hogwash!  I thought.  The more I researched, the more I knew, the better doctors, the right protocol, the right food – THAT would get them better.

Until.

Until, by accident I took care of myself.  Well, I had to; I got sick.  Went to an acupuncturist and (gasp) a chiropractor and a real (double gasp) holistic doctor.  And I couldn’t and didn’t pay attention to my kids.  And by some strange miracle, they had a few great days.

From the back recess of my now-clear and much-more-aligned mind, I remembered what someone said about taking care of myself.  But I have a really hard head.  And I don’t listen.  So, I got better and moved on to more researching, more cooking, more analysis, more books – well, you get the picture.

And then my son – the one who I am scared to use the “R” word for, so I just say that he was diagnosed with mild-moderate ASD at age 3.  Today, he is entering 2nd grade in a regular school with no support.  He has friends, tests in the normal range, plays on baseball and soccer teams.  No teachers or coaches know of his background and they have not mentioned any issues.  But no “R” word.  That tempts fate here.

Well back to the original story.  Then this kid started backsliding, for no reason, and I couldn’t understand it.  I felt so out of control that I actually went back to that acupuncturist and the chiropractor.  And he got better.  And finally, something (God?) got through my thick skull.

So I stopped focusing on him and my other son as much.  I let them glide some.  And I focused on me.  And I felt horrible about it.  I felt so selfish.  Who was I to use that money for a co-pay?  But I did, because I could see the changes.

Fast forward a year.  I can’t say that I don’t still feel guilty spending the money.  But today, I work out.  It happens to be at 5:30 in the morning, but I do it.  I am now a certified Reiki 2 and I actually spend time going to Reiki Shares.  I meditate from time to time.  And many times I am more calm and centered.  And, as a result, SO ARE MY KIDS.  My kids are doing great and I am able to enjoy it and not just wait for the other shoe to drop.

I am happier, so WE are happier.

I could still point out all of things that I am not doing, but I try not to.

Remember, you are the CEO of your team – your energy not only matters it is critical.  Everyone feeds off it.  Please focus on it.

Good Luck!

~On My Way to Awesome