Each One Teach One. This phrase originated in the US during a time when African Americans were denied education which included learning to read. If someone learned to read, they were responsible to pass that skill along and teach another to read. Each One Teach One. The phrase has been used a great deal in education and can even be found in classrooms where the students become the teacher and teach their classmates something new they have learned. Powerful, to take on the responsibility of sharing what you have learned so others may benefit too.
From the moment we began looking at my son’s autism through a medical lens, the greatest source of knowledge and information we found has been other parents. Parents who have taken the knowledge that they have gained and turned around to educate the next family. From the beginning I have found more answers to my questions from fellow autism moms and dads than any of the doctors we ever saw combined.
I will never forget walking into our new pediatrician’s office after our move with my three-year-old, and his thin little medical folder, and my five-year-old with autism who was an inch shorter than his brother, and his massive medical binder that went along with it. You see, my son stopped growing. After I explained that my older son has autism and a lot of medical conditions that we have been concerned about, this pediatrician proceeded to go into a lengthy explanation of what exactly autism is. Seriously? You are going to sit there and explain that my son has a hard time making friends as if I don’t already know this information? Insulting at best.
So here’s where I get a little irritated and start explaining, perhaps with too much aggravation in my voice, all the information we have found out already through our testing (because this doctor has still not opened said huge binder). At each turn we get some defensive comments or dismissive statements. HELLO! Our son has stopped growing. HELP US. Yadda, yadda, yadda . . . cursory ‘well visit’ over. The pediatrician on his way out makes the statement, “You probably know more about all this than I do.” And leaves the room.
What??? I figured out I knew more than this doc in the first minute, but did he really just admit it? I then look at the physical form for school. He signed off on a medical waiver for my son’s vaccines that were due and I refused after showing him titer levels that proved immunity. You could have knocked me over with a feather. I also realized that I was not going to get myself knowledgeable about how to help my son sitting in a pediatrician’s office.
The work that goes into helping our kids become healthier is going to be done by US. The parents. All of it done in the name of love. Because the fact of the matter is, we love our children with every cell in our bodies and want to see them healthy. We want to see our children grow. We want to see them happy, and thriving and free from pain. And we want to see your children healthy too. All our children.
What is beautiful and special about our community of parents is their willingness to help each other and share information. We tell each other what is working and what isn’t. We will spend hours on the phone with a newly diagnosed family, and send books and email links to dietary interventions. We do this because this is what other parents have done for us. The ones that came before. Each One Teach One.
After my recent post about our travels to see a new practitioner, I had another mom ask me who we went to see. Though a series of PMs back and forth and a discussion about our children’s health problems, she explained what she did that brought about miraculous growth for her child. I was so inspired by her story that I had to investigate further. After some thorough research and a lot of thought, we went ahead with the intervention. She passed along what she has learned to me, because in our community of love and support that is what we do. It comes so naturally. Each One Teach One.
In the last month since we started on this new path, my son has gained three pounds! Thanks to the exchange of information between two parents, we are seeing some long-awaited weight on my son’s small frame. Each One Teach One. The sharing of information is a powerful thing that can change a life, make an impact, create a different outcome.
A big thank you to Kelly Wooldridge for helping us find what truly seems to be finally healing my son’s digestive system. No matter how long you are on the road to healing your child, there is so much more to be learned from other parents that are on the journey too. I am grateful to the TMR community and the biomed community as a whole for always actively supporting one another.
We would love to hear your stories of support and healing! How have you benefited from the practice of Each One Teach One? And, how have you helped other autism parents along the way?
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